What you are getting yourself into.
I do group coaching programs that are interactive and done weekly to be in community while healing.
The journey to pleasure is a 6-week program to build safety in the body so pleasure and sex that works for you can become do-able after trauma. The course is done in 2-hour workshops per week.
The Journey to Pleasure has been UPGRADED but there is no current LIVE round of the program happening at the moment. Sign up to the Newsletter on the site’s homepage to get notified of the next round of enrolment.
it’s going to be about creating safety —> cultivating curiosity —> experiencing pleasure.
Week 1& 2 - Creating safety (taking care of the inner child self)
Week 1 will be about physiological self-trust. It will feature topics such as:
The ins and outs of your automatic nervous system in the context of pleasure. You’ll learn about the polyvagal theory and the three different branches of your ANS.
Neuroception: what it is (hint: it’s our innate ability to tell safety from danger. But when we’ve had a history of adversity, neuroception isn’t as sharp.)
Building neuroception in post traumatic growth.
Creating a sensory dictionary for cues of safety and cues of danger (so you can get used to noticing either one)
Exploring what sort of couplings you’ve created with pleasure and your sexuality (for example, feeling good gets me in trouble!). Learning how to rewire couplings will occur.
Week 2 will be about resourcing safety + belonging for the inner child. Our learning will centre around:
Understanding gaslighting and the different kinds of gaslighting: medical, relational, professional, familial.
Reclaiming your experiences.
Resourcing safety and belonging for the child self using internal and external resourcing.
Week 3 & 4 - Cultivating curiosity (integrating the inner teenage self)
Week 3 will be about, you’ll get to:
Connect with the teenage part of you. The teenage self is theatrical, messy, dramatic, interesting and wants attention.
Clearly identify what your yums and your yucks are sexually.
Unearth fantasies. What if you had no shame about what you craved? What if you stopped feeling broken about not wanting the same things as a lot of people seem to want? What if you celebrated that you are unique as heck and whatever you want, done consensually, is fucking hot? That would feel good huh? Let’s get curious.
Reclaim desire and sensual/ sexual drive as an innate innocent part of being human.
Week 4 will be about…
Intellectual consent vs somatic consent.
How to notice somatic yeses and somatic no’s.
Staying in your own nervous system and individuation.
Week 5 & 6 - Practicing pleasure (living in window of tolerance as an adult)
In week 5, you will learn…
About how to create GLIMMERS through your 5 senses to curate environments that feel safe to experience pleasure in.
How to stay in the window of tolerance as you increase your tolerance for aliveness, play and rest. (You’ll know exactly what to do when you track flooding or overwhelm or shut down when pleasure arises.)
Week 6 will be about…
The power of the clitoris and their wisdom to us as vulva owners (their only purpose is pleasure). Note: yes I call the clitoris they/them. ;)
The science of orgasm and why it’s useful in trauma recovery. For example: It’s been proven that the release of the feel good hormone of oxytocin through orgasm actually builds trust in the body, trust in each other and trust in life.
Writing our personal pleasure manifesto.
In the end?
My dearest hope for you as a graduate of this program is that you feel well educated about your nervous system in the context of pleasure and how to work with your biology in order to stay in your window of tolerance to increase your quality of life in post traumatic growth. I hope that you walk away feeling confident about curating environments that are filled with glimmers and I will have done my job if you feel clear about what your yums and your yucks are, and know how to read your body’s signals for consent.
Who The Journey to Pleasure is for.
Someone who has a considerable amount of nervous system health education already and is familiar with the ANS (kind of like if you’ve already taken Nervous System Mastery)
Someone who has access to a safe environment at the moment
Someone who wants to feel good in their sexuality again or for the first time
Someone who wants to stop doomsdaying
Someone who wants to enjoy their life and not feel on edge anymore all the friggen time
Someone who wants to stop feeling suspicious in disproportionate ways of good things and gain neuroception (so you can actually sense if there is a real danger vs not)
Someone who wants to sleep better and deeper
Someone who has a good sense of humour
Someone who wants to play
Someone who has a vulva <3
Someone who identifies in having developmental trauma or is a marginalized member of society given the current systems of oppression that exist (as this is a course about recovering from D.T/ oppression at its core)
Who The Journey to Pleasure is not for.
Someone who has an active mental health issue and is not in psychotherapy as a form of treatment (this class is for education + information purposes only and does not replace treatment in any way)
Someone who’s never done any kind of nervous system health work or trauma resolution before this course
Someone who’s living in a dangerous or abusive environment (you still deserve help. However, this course isn’t a crisis management course, and it’s not going to be possible to apply if you are in a chaotic unsafe space)
Why this program matters to me.
I am a gay girl who grew up repressing my sexuality because of the Catholic Church influence, as well as the rampant homophobia that was present in the culture where I was brought up.
After all that, I had no idea how to pin point my body’s consent or my natural occurring yums and yucks, much less assert these to myself and to my lovers.
Now that I know, I love to help other people arrive at the conclusion that pleasure, on their terms, is inherently good and accessible to them.
But I also understand deeply (because I was there) that pleasure isn’t the first step when we are coming from a background of adversity or oppression.
We journey to pleasure through building safety in our bodies and being curious about ourselves to find the right ingredients that make us happy, and to let go of the things that don’t actually suit us.
Join me for the journey to pleasure.
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Feedback…
“A huge part of your course that definitely completely changed my life was really feeling into my “yums” and “yucks” and realized that after dating men for years (and identifying as bisexual) that I really just wanted to date women and identify as lesbian. I think it’s so wild that I’ve literally gone through a year long sex coach training and no one had ever asked me: so what turns you on? What’s really yummy for you? I remember coming out when I was 16 and feeling pretty depressed/mildly suicidal about it, but now I have been just sharing it with EVERYONE and just not even have it cross my mind that I shouldn’t share it. So thank you so much for bringing me back to my women loving sweet spot!
As someone who focuses on trauma resolution but also has trained a lot in sex coaching, your course felt like it really took me almost deeper into pleasure and sexuality. I think this course is PERFECT for people who haven’t ever had anyone teach them about pleasure from a developmental trauma place. I honestly think your course goes deeper and is more transformational than many intensive courses or trainings on sexuality. ”